The real problem of the human condition is we have allowed most of our humanity to be drained from us. This is why when we find ourselves with certain issues, we let them turn into situations thus we end up with an issuation.
As humans, we have ourselves to remind us of love, patience, kindness, evil, hate, etc. Unfortunately, something has entered our collective psyche that has created a paradigm of continuous violence towards and hate for our fellow man.
I believe it is our lack of human interaction that has driven us to this point. Families aren't as loving as they could be, thus those who leave their homes everyday, bring a jacked up reality with them. People engaging each other, each bringing their own issues, creating situations that cause others to have to deal with issuations.
If we would only treat others the way we would like to ideally be treated, yes, this would be a much better world. Even those who hate themselves have an idea of how they wanted to be treated better. Until we practice this mandated creed of "Do unto to others, as you would have them do unto you," we will continue to see a decline in humankind.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Let Go Fool
Wow! I have witnessed this girl chase after this man for over six years. She wouldn't take the hints, suttle or not. Finally, he did the worse he could do and that was to bring another woman to her house to confront her.
Let go fool! Yes, it is poor taste on a man's part to do what he did, but you let the issue turn into a situation that you are unable to handle. Now, there are others involved and you look like the foolish little girl that you are. It had been rumored she had fought several women over the years for his attention. She had been able to run the others away, but he wasn't allowing it this time. He wanted to be rid of her.
I wonder if he knew he wouldn't survive the day after he did what he did, if he would have done it anyway. Now she is left looking even more stupid. All that effort she put into keeping him still netted her nothing in the end cause he's dead.
What an awful issuation she has created for herself. She will forever have to deal with the knowledge that this man did not want her and died with that feeling, even though she was the one with him when he went on to wherever drug dealers go.
Let go. Don't let issues turn into situations!
Let go fool! Yes, it is poor taste on a man's part to do what he did, but you let the issue turn into a situation that you are unable to handle. Now, there are others involved and you look like the foolish little girl that you are. It had been rumored she had fought several women over the years for his attention. She had been able to run the others away, but he wasn't allowing it this time. He wanted to be rid of her.
I wonder if he knew he wouldn't survive the day after he did what he did, if he would have done it anyway. Now she is left looking even more stupid. All that effort she put into keeping him still netted her nothing in the end cause he's dead.
What an awful issuation she has created for herself. She will forever have to deal with the knowledge that this man did not want her and died with that feeling, even though she was the one with him when he went on to wherever drug dealers go.
Let go. Don't let issues turn into situations!
Smart Boy
My son called me after the U of L game to see if I took the car keys with me to work. He was planning to go out and hit the streets like hundreds of other fans due to the win. Yes, I took them on purpose. I knew what the issue was and I knew that the probability of it turning into an issuation was vast, all things considered.
Prevention is the key to most situations. I recognized that my son would probably feel compelled to celebrate, but I also knew that the police would be out heavily. Why would I allow him to jeopardize his job, health, maybe even his life just so he could feel the momentarily joy of being around alot of jubilant fans? Gunshots were fired after the last win. Thank God no one was hurt.
When I said to him, "Son you just may be glad I took the keys." He said, "You took them on purpose. You knew what I was going to do. Thank you! Thank you, Mom. I love you."
He was relieved. Even though there was a huge part of him that wanted to go out and hit the streets, deep down he knew he shouldn't be out there. He was glad I saved him from himself. Made me feel good that I thwarted what could have turned into a bad issuation.
Prevention is the key to issuations. Prevent an issuation today.
Prevention is the key to most situations. I recognized that my son would probably feel compelled to celebrate, but I also knew that the police would be out heavily. Why would I allow him to jeopardize his job, health, maybe even his life just so he could feel the momentarily joy of being around alot of jubilant fans? Gunshots were fired after the last win. Thank God no one was hurt.
When I said to him, "Son you just may be glad I took the keys." He said, "You took them on purpose. You knew what I was going to do. Thank you! Thank you, Mom. I love you."
He was relieved. Even though there was a huge part of him that wanted to go out and hit the streets, deep down he knew he shouldn't be out there. He was glad I saved him from himself. Made me feel good that I thwarted what could have turned into a bad issuation.
Prevention is the key to issuations. Prevent an issuation today.
Count Down
Little did I know when I witnessed him bring his new girlfriend over to confront the old one, that this guy would be dead by the next day. Yeah, he was a drug dealer, but he kept to himself and you could tell he didn't want trouble. Yet, he chose to date trouble and she brought it at every turn.
Too much of a coward to end it with her; he brought a young lady to her home to confront her. It was a shameful act, but one he felt was right to portray. They tried to fight each other, but the mother came out and got in between it.
After his death, it was rumored they had been chasing each other in their cars earlier that Sunday morning. I encountered him as I was preparing to leave my home. He actually spoke so I could hear him, asking me if I was a diabetic. He gave me a line about his mother being very ill and that he needed to help her. It didn't fly with me, but I went in the house as though I was going to assist him. I stayed long enough to give the impression I looked for something. When I returned outside, he was down the street asking a couple if they had a needle.
When he saw me come out, he came back towards me not saying anything but looking at me intently with his begging eyes. I nodded that I did not have anything and go in my car. When I returned, I told my daughter, "Well, I guess the little drug dealer is probably laid up somewhere high."
She came to me about an hour later and told me he had ODed. My soul knew it. He was to frantic that morning. He was seeking and searching out that which helped him end his life. So many think is was suicide and it very well could have been. No matter why, he is gone, done, finished. He can't hurt anyone anymore; not even himself.
Watch how you treat people, especially yourself.
He let his issues turn into a deadly situation.
Too much of a coward to end it with her; he brought a young lady to her home to confront her. It was a shameful act, but one he felt was right to portray. They tried to fight each other, but the mother came out and got in between it.
After his death, it was rumored they had been chasing each other in their cars earlier that Sunday morning. I encountered him as I was preparing to leave my home. He actually spoke so I could hear him, asking me if I was a diabetic. He gave me a line about his mother being very ill and that he needed to help her. It didn't fly with me, but I went in the house as though I was going to assist him. I stayed long enough to give the impression I looked for something. When I returned outside, he was down the street asking a couple if they had a needle.
When he saw me come out, he came back towards me not saying anything but looking at me intently with his begging eyes. I nodded that I did not have anything and go in my car. When I returned, I told my daughter, "Well, I guess the little drug dealer is probably laid up somewhere high."
She came to me about an hour later and told me he had ODed. My soul knew it. He was to frantic that morning. He was seeking and searching out that which helped him end his life. So many think is was suicide and it very well could have been. No matter why, he is gone, done, finished. He can't hurt anyone anymore; not even himself.
Watch how you treat people, especially yourself.
He let his issues turn into a deadly situation.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Say What? You Don't Use Condoms!
A man who refuses to use a condom in this day and age has a serious problem. Talk about some deep issues. Either he is completely disrespectful and self-destructive, or his ego is really out of whack, or he is stuck in a time warp.
Whatever the case may be not wearing a condom shows how ignorant a person really is. This is an issue that can turn into an unwanted situation instantly.
He must not know there are strands of Herpes and other diseases that cannot be treated with antibiotics. Yep, shit you get you can't get rid of.
Not to mention the possibility of producing an unwanted child, which you also cannot get rid of, unless you gonna pull a Ray Carruth and have the momma and baby killed. You stuck with that issuation.
Even if you contract something you can get rid of, you are rarely the same after having a burning experience like and STD can produce.
What about those who are in supposedly committed relationships, but want to step out and into someones unprotected private area? These brothers have no respect for themselves are their partners. The least they can do is to wrap it up.
Whatever your issue is with wearing a condom, (may you be male or female) you need to know if you don't, you will most likely end up with an issuation you just may not be able to get rid of.
Grow up and wrap it up at all times! Plain an simple.
Whatever the case may be not wearing a condom shows how ignorant a person really is. This is an issue that can turn into an unwanted situation instantly.
He must not know there are strands of Herpes and other diseases that cannot be treated with antibiotics. Yep, shit you get you can't get rid of.
Not to mention the possibility of producing an unwanted child, which you also cannot get rid of, unless you gonna pull a Ray Carruth and have the momma and baby killed. You stuck with that issuation.
Even if you contract something you can get rid of, you are rarely the same after having a burning experience like and STD can produce.
What about those who are in supposedly committed relationships, but want to step out and into someones unprotected private area? These brothers have no respect for themselves are their partners. The least they can do is to wrap it up.
Whatever your issue is with wearing a condom, (may you be male or female) you need to know if you don't, you will most likely end up with an issuation you just may not be able to get rid of.
Grow up and wrap it up at all times! Plain an simple.
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
You Did It to Yourself
There are a lot of people who want to believe that every thought they have is original. They are so caught up in who they are and what they want and are most often unwilling to research and find out if they are correct, until they often create issues that turn into situations.
Once an issue turns into a situation there is a great probability the problem will be harder to solve. In the case of the type of person I described above, they need to accept they are not alone and that others have brains also. These people are ego centered enough to believe what they think is in a capsule, never recognizing the potential of others to discover, think about, or even act out some of the very same ideas.
Not being able to recognize anything or anyone outside of themselves; these people end up in a lot of issuations because they do not feel the need to reconcile any of their offensives because of course, they are always right.
These folk are often argumentative and unreachable. Over opinionated and undereducated, they focus on what they feel and use it a their guiding force. Once they find themselves in an issuation, they tend to want to blame others for their downfall. They completely forget they initiated the issue that caused the situation.
Accountability is the solution for this person. They need to be held accountable by others. This is the only way they will eventually get it. Unfortunately, these people are usually the loudest, most aggressive folk, so people tend to just let them have their way. This tactic is unhealthy for all involved.
Check yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Once an issue turns into a situation there is a great probability the problem will be harder to solve. In the case of the type of person I described above, they need to accept they are not alone and that others have brains also. These people are ego centered enough to believe what they think is in a capsule, never recognizing the potential of others to discover, think about, or even act out some of the very same ideas.
Not being able to recognize anything or anyone outside of themselves; these people end up in a lot of issuations because they do not feel the need to reconcile any of their offensives because of course, they are always right.
These folk are often argumentative and unreachable. Over opinionated and undereducated, they focus on what they feel and use it a their guiding force. Once they find themselves in an issuation, they tend to want to blame others for their downfall. They completely forget they initiated the issue that caused the situation.
Accountability is the solution for this person. They need to be held accountable by others. This is the only way they will eventually get it. Unfortunately, these people are usually the loudest, most aggressive folk, so people tend to just let them have their way. This tactic is unhealthy for all involved.
Check yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
What You Can Do To Prevent Issuations
Before I get into talking about issuations, I want to talk about how to avoid them.
The answer is so simple. There will always be issues. Life without issues is a life without life, but we can handle issues much better than situations. Oftentimes our issues start with us. Usually something we can handle is we only would. What happens is we allow what the issue is to fester into a full-blown situation with is often avoidable if we just take the time to deal with the matter when it arises.
Procrastination is the devil. Plain and simple. Especially for those of us who really want to achieve something in life. How do you prevent issuations? Put your big boy or big girl panties on and deal with the reality of the matter of the fact each time they are presented.
Most problems start off small. Recognize when balance is off in your life and do what you can to get it back to where it needs to be. Stop letting any and everybody into your life. Most folk have issues too so be careful not to allow someone to incorporate their issuations into your life.
Be willing to modify your plan need be. Issuations often happen because folk refuse to compromise or see the big picture.
Finally, be open to change as a whole. Know what you believe. Stand up for your rights and convictions. Be forgiving, loving and welcoming. All of this will help you prevent issuations.
The answer is so simple. There will always be issues. Life without issues is a life without life, but we can handle issues much better than situations. Oftentimes our issues start with us. Usually something we can handle is we only would. What happens is we allow what the issue is to fester into a full-blown situation with is often avoidable if we just take the time to deal with the matter when it arises.
Procrastination is the devil. Plain and simple. Especially for those of us who really want to achieve something in life. How do you prevent issuations? Put your big boy or big girl panties on and deal with the reality of the matter of the fact each time they are presented.
Most problems start off small. Recognize when balance is off in your life and do what you can to get it back to where it needs to be. Stop letting any and everybody into your life. Most folk have issues too so be careful not to allow someone to incorporate their issuations into your life.
Be willing to modify your plan need be. Issuations often happen because folk refuse to compromise or see the big picture.
Finally, be open to change as a whole. Know what you believe. Stand up for your rights and convictions. Be forgiving, loving and welcoming. All of this will help you prevent issuations.
Monday, April 1, 2013
Introduction to Issuations
Welcome to my new blog Issuations.
Issuations are issues that turn into situations. We have all done it. Allowed an issue to turn into a situation when all we had to do was handle our business. I did it with food and finances. Others do it with drugs, gambling, sex, bad relationships, poor parenting, etc.
What I see as the main social issue of the day is issuations. People refuse to hold themselves accountable for the jacked up choices they have made that have caused awful, often seemingly unchangeable situations in their lives.
This blog will deal with some of the things that go on in folks lives and hopefully provide some type of relief with suggestions as to how to not let issues turn into issuations.
Issuations are issues that turn into situations. We have all done it. Allowed an issue to turn into a situation when all we had to do was handle our business. I did it with food and finances. Others do it with drugs, gambling, sex, bad relationships, poor parenting, etc.
What I see as the main social issue of the day is issuations. People refuse to hold themselves accountable for the jacked up choices they have made that have caused awful, often seemingly unchangeable situations in their lives.
This blog will deal with some of the things that go on in folks lives and hopefully provide some type of relief with suggestions as to how to not let issues turn into issuations.
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