One of the most common issues that turns into an issuation is men who have not found a way to detach from the mothers/families appropriately.
These issuations can cause women to feel left out and useless in the relationship because the man often chooses to deal with his family for varies reasons, often after an argument or break-up.
Mommy Hates Daddy
Men who come from a home with only a mother who hates his father, and he looks just like his father are usually the worse off. Next to the man whose mother gives her son everything, this man is a horror to deal with. He is forever trying to win his momma's love and she ain't having it cause she didn't get the love from his daddy she was promised. His reflection of the father is enough to ensure this boy will forever be craving the love of a loving and affection mother.
A woman with one of these guys who is unwilling to work on himself should not allow herself to take what he is doing personally. IF he ain't the one, run. But if you want him, suggest he get help if he doesn't? Then RUN!
Mommy Had a Lot of Brothers
When a young man finds out his mother is sexually active it is hard on him. If he has a mother who does not care that he knows she is sexually active, it is usually a source of immense shame. Sometimes these mothers are drug addicted, or prostitutes, sluts, needy, or just straight up a hoe. No matter the case, no young man suffers well with knowing the truth about Eve.
These brother usually don't trust women. They know the women that will fuck. They know the aggressive woman who brings home man after man and bands them to their room; or maybe not. Suspicion and disrespect will stream throughout any relationship this brother has. No one is safe unless he gets therapy.
Mommy Real Religious
These the real freaks out of the bunch. Check out the Jodi Arias story.
These men hide behind God and are dangerous on the deepest level because they prey on folks souls.
Those are the extreme ones. There are men who are frigid because they have been taught little about their bodies except to ignore its natural inclinations.
Mommy Was Passed Out
Here many of the "Caption Save a Hoe's" are bread. I never have to worry about them. I am waaaay too independent. These men seek to always be the savior, when in fact they are little boys who had to take control to survive due to having a mother who had checked out for real. Only awake for the next hit.
You know what to do!
These are just a few Mommy issues I have seen women deal with. I believe we all can benefit from therapy. Even people who are well-adjusted. You might be good, but you can always be better.
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Wednesday, April 24, 2013
The Real Problem
The real problem of the human condition is we have allowed most of our humanity to be drained from us. This is why when we find ourselves with certain issues, we let them turn into situations thus we end up with an issuation.
As humans, we have ourselves to remind us of love, patience, kindness, evil, hate, etc. Unfortunately, something has entered our collective psyche that has created a paradigm of continuous violence towards and hate for our fellow man.
I believe it is our lack of human interaction that has driven us to this point. Families aren't as loving as they could be, thus those who leave their homes everyday, bring a jacked up reality with them. People engaging each other, each bringing their own issues, creating situations that cause others to have to deal with issuations.
If we would only treat others the way we would like to ideally be treated, yes, this would be a much better world. Even those who hate themselves have an idea of how they wanted to be treated better. Until we practice this mandated creed of "Do unto to others, as you would have them do unto you," we will continue to see a decline in humankind.
As humans, we have ourselves to remind us of love, patience, kindness, evil, hate, etc. Unfortunately, something has entered our collective psyche that has created a paradigm of continuous violence towards and hate for our fellow man.
I believe it is our lack of human interaction that has driven us to this point. Families aren't as loving as they could be, thus those who leave their homes everyday, bring a jacked up reality with them. People engaging each other, each bringing their own issues, creating situations that cause others to have to deal with issuations.
If we would only treat others the way we would like to ideally be treated, yes, this would be a much better world. Even those who hate themselves have an idea of how they wanted to be treated better. Until we practice this mandated creed of "Do unto to others, as you would have them do unto you," we will continue to see a decline in humankind.
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Smart Boy
My son called me after the U of L game to see if I took the car keys with me to work. He was planning to go out and hit the streets like hundreds of other fans due to the win. Yes, I took them on purpose. I knew what the issue was and I knew that the probability of it turning into an issuation was vast, all things considered.
Prevention is the key to most situations. I recognized that my son would probably feel compelled to celebrate, but I also knew that the police would be out heavily. Why would I allow him to jeopardize his job, health, maybe even his life just so he could feel the momentarily joy of being around alot of jubilant fans? Gunshots were fired after the last win. Thank God no one was hurt.
When I said to him, "Son you just may be glad I took the keys." He said, "You took them on purpose. You knew what I was going to do. Thank you! Thank you, Mom. I love you."
He was relieved. Even though there was a huge part of him that wanted to go out and hit the streets, deep down he knew he shouldn't be out there. He was glad I saved him from himself. Made me feel good that I thwarted what could have turned into a bad issuation.
Prevention is the key to issuations. Prevent an issuation today.
Prevention is the key to most situations. I recognized that my son would probably feel compelled to celebrate, but I also knew that the police would be out heavily. Why would I allow him to jeopardize his job, health, maybe even his life just so he could feel the momentarily joy of being around alot of jubilant fans? Gunshots were fired after the last win. Thank God no one was hurt.
When I said to him, "Son you just may be glad I took the keys." He said, "You took them on purpose. You knew what I was going to do. Thank you! Thank you, Mom. I love you."
He was relieved. Even though there was a huge part of him that wanted to go out and hit the streets, deep down he knew he shouldn't be out there. He was glad I saved him from himself. Made me feel good that I thwarted what could have turned into a bad issuation.
Prevention is the key to issuations. Prevent an issuation today.
Count Down
Little did I know when I witnessed him bring his new girlfriend over to confront the old one, that this guy would be dead by the next day. Yeah, he was a drug dealer, but he kept to himself and you could tell he didn't want trouble. Yet, he chose to date trouble and she brought it at every turn.
Too much of a coward to end it with her; he brought a young lady to her home to confront her. It was a shameful act, but one he felt was right to portray. They tried to fight each other, but the mother came out and got in between it.
After his death, it was rumored they had been chasing each other in their cars earlier that Sunday morning. I encountered him as I was preparing to leave my home. He actually spoke so I could hear him, asking me if I was a diabetic. He gave me a line about his mother being very ill and that he needed to help her. It didn't fly with me, but I went in the house as though I was going to assist him. I stayed long enough to give the impression I looked for something. When I returned outside, he was down the street asking a couple if they had a needle.
When he saw me come out, he came back towards me not saying anything but looking at me intently with his begging eyes. I nodded that I did not have anything and go in my car. When I returned, I told my daughter, "Well, I guess the little drug dealer is probably laid up somewhere high."
She came to me about an hour later and told me he had ODed. My soul knew it. He was to frantic that morning. He was seeking and searching out that which helped him end his life. So many think is was suicide and it very well could have been. No matter why, he is gone, done, finished. He can't hurt anyone anymore; not even himself.
Watch how you treat people, especially yourself.
He let his issues turn into a deadly situation.
Too much of a coward to end it with her; he brought a young lady to her home to confront her. It was a shameful act, but one he felt was right to portray. They tried to fight each other, but the mother came out and got in between it.
After his death, it was rumored they had been chasing each other in their cars earlier that Sunday morning. I encountered him as I was preparing to leave my home. He actually spoke so I could hear him, asking me if I was a diabetic. He gave me a line about his mother being very ill and that he needed to help her. It didn't fly with me, but I went in the house as though I was going to assist him. I stayed long enough to give the impression I looked for something. When I returned outside, he was down the street asking a couple if they had a needle.
When he saw me come out, he came back towards me not saying anything but looking at me intently with his begging eyes. I nodded that I did not have anything and go in my car. When I returned, I told my daughter, "Well, I guess the little drug dealer is probably laid up somewhere high."
She came to me about an hour later and told me he had ODed. My soul knew it. He was to frantic that morning. He was seeking and searching out that which helped him end his life. So many think is was suicide and it very well could have been. No matter why, he is gone, done, finished. He can't hurt anyone anymore; not even himself.
Watch how you treat people, especially yourself.
He let his issues turn into a deadly situation.
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
What You Can Do To Prevent Issuations
Before I get into talking about issuations, I want to talk about how to avoid them.
The answer is so simple. There will always be issues. Life without issues is a life without life, but we can handle issues much better than situations. Oftentimes our issues start with us. Usually something we can handle is we only would. What happens is we allow what the issue is to fester into a full-blown situation with is often avoidable if we just take the time to deal with the matter when it arises.
Procrastination is the devil. Plain and simple. Especially for those of us who really want to achieve something in life. How do you prevent issuations? Put your big boy or big girl panties on and deal with the reality of the matter of the fact each time they are presented.
Most problems start off small. Recognize when balance is off in your life and do what you can to get it back to where it needs to be. Stop letting any and everybody into your life. Most folk have issues too so be careful not to allow someone to incorporate their issuations into your life.
Be willing to modify your plan need be. Issuations often happen because folk refuse to compromise or see the big picture.
Finally, be open to change as a whole. Know what you believe. Stand up for your rights and convictions. Be forgiving, loving and welcoming. All of this will help you prevent issuations.
The answer is so simple. There will always be issues. Life without issues is a life without life, but we can handle issues much better than situations. Oftentimes our issues start with us. Usually something we can handle is we only would. What happens is we allow what the issue is to fester into a full-blown situation with is often avoidable if we just take the time to deal with the matter when it arises.
Procrastination is the devil. Plain and simple. Especially for those of us who really want to achieve something in life. How do you prevent issuations? Put your big boy or big girl panties on and deal with the reality of the matter of the fact each time they are presented.
Most problems start off small. Recognize when balance is off in your life and do what you can to get it back to where it needs to be. Stop letting any and everybody into your life. Most folk have issues too so be careful not to allow someone to incorporate their issuations into your life.
Be willing to modify your plan need be. Issuations often happen because folk refuse to compromise or see the big picture.
Finally, be open to change as a whole. Know what you believe. Stand up for your rights and convictions. Be forgiving, loving and welcoming. All of this will help you prevent issuations.
Monday, April 1, 2013
Introduction to Issuations
Welcome to my new blog Issuations.
Issuations are issues that turn into situations. We have all done it. Allowed an issue to turn into a situation when all we had to do was handle our business. I did it with food and finances. Others do it with drugs, gambling, sex, bad relationships, poor parenting, etc.
What I see as the main social issue of the day is issuations. People refuse to hold themselves accountable for the jacked up choices they have made that have caused awful, often seemingly unchangeable situations in their lives.
This blog will deal with some of the things that go on in folks lives and hopefully provide some type of relief with suggestions as to how to not let issues turn into issuations.
Issuations are issues that turn into situations. We have all done it. Allowed an issue to turn into a situation when all we had to do was handle our business. I did it with food and finances. Others do it with drugs, gambling, sex, bad relationships, poor parenting, etc.
What I see as the main social issue of the day is issuations. People refuse to hold themselves accountable for the jacked up choices they have made that have caused awful, often seemingly unchangeable situations in their lives.
This blog will deal with some of the things that go on in folks lives and hopefully provide some type of relief with suggestions as to how to not let issues turn into issuations.
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