This Thang They Call Love

I am at a point in my life where I have to once again, choose to love. Yes, right off the bat I know and you know that there will be issues. What I have learned is issues arise. What I know I will do when they do; is meet them head on.

Our lives would be so much easier to navigate if we would be the adults we are designed to be and just deal with issues as they arise. You spend twice as much time redoing when doing it right the first time is most effective and efficient.

This thang we call love is nothing more than us desiring to fulfill or natural mandate. It is our insertion of our will that causes us to lose sight of God's will for us. Oh, when you let love be. When you allow it to use you, you come close, oh so close to heaven. Yes, I will love again. I will do so because I am love and that is what it is.

I have stopped all my magical thinking. I have chosen to become an explorer of human nature, especially my own. I refuse to let any issue in my life turn into a situation. Issuations are made from messy lives. You have to clean up the mess you make in your life. You cannot expect to be lovable when you know you are messy. Yes, they will find out. They always do.

Yeah, I'd be scared of the this thang called love if I was anywhere near the woman I was 15 years ago. I have done the work and now it is time for me to give myself permission to be loved.

What's So Great About You?

I never understood the belief that to have a good relationship you had to have mostly everything in common with the person you are with. The adventurer in me cannot accept the already known. I want to explore someone who I do not recognize. I want to discover their dreams and desires and help them cultivate them.

To those who are seeking themselves in others, I ask you, "What's so great about you to the degree you want to be with someone just like you?"

I am one of the most uninteresting people I know when I am in my element. I can be very moody and distant, especially when I am working or thinking. Most of my hobbies are solitary ones. I enjoy my company immensely, but I do recognize how someone could see me as boring. This is one of the major reasons I want someones who stimulates parts of me that I let lay dormant. Not that they do not exist, it is just easy for me to resist their call. Having someone like me would insure we probably wouldn't do much and that's get old real quick.

Yet, you see all the time folk praying to find someone who thinks like them, listens to the same music they do, etc., etc., and so on and so on. I believe deeply the moment we decided we want to share who we are with another and discover who they are; our relationships will be more satisfying.

So, the next time you sit down to make a list about what you want in a person. Write one about what makes you worthy of another person. List the qualities worthy of sharing. Describe the ways of love you plan to practice. Ponder the acts of service you can perform. But, most of all seek God's will.