What It Really Means to Know Your Worth

Issues arise throughout the days of our lives. We actually go from one issue to another attending to some, ignoring others, or letting other people handle them. An issuation is born when an issue is allowed to turn into a situation. One particular issuation seems to plague many women and that is the issue of not knowing their worth.

I suffered from this greatly. I have done the work needed to maintain peace and joy in my life; I have come to understand  as a woman I am the greatest of all creatures. The Universe has trusted me with the ability to co-create. I can then nourish the creation and any other with my own body. I have the ability to share my life at the deepest level possible for mankind. I am woman.

Yet, for years I hated the very sight of me. I made decisions based on the belief that I was less than. Oh, but now that I know who I am and whose I am! I came very close to letting my lack of self-worth turn into an issuation. It did make it to situation status, but I was able to recognize the situation and back tracked to the issue, which turned out to be I had no idea of my worth.

When you know your worth, you do not deny the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you are about to do something that is not in your best interest. You no longer allow others to disrespect you, ignore you, or put you on their back burner. Knowing your worth will no longer allow you to be the whipping post for those with misdirected anger. You no longer desire to be around people who are harming themselves.

You stop trying to save others. Yes, we all have a light, but it is up to the individual where to let it shine. I chose marriage and motherhood. My light shown brightly throughout those years and I was able to help raise three beautiful, productive human beings. Our time is now. It is all we truly have. We must embrace ourselves and accept the challenges life brings us with grace and faith. We are worthy. We are women!

What's So Great About You?

I never understood the belief that to have a good relationship you had to have mostly everything in common with the person you are with. The adventurer in me cannot accept the already known. I want to explore someone who I do not recognize. I want to discover their dreams and desires and help them cultivate them.

To those who are seeking themselves in others, I ask you, "What's so great about you to the degree you want to be with someone just like you?"

I am one of the most uninteresting people I know when I am in my element. I can be very moody and distant, especially when I am working or thinking. Most of my hobbies are solitary ones. I enjoy my company immensely, but I do recognize how someone could see me as boring. This is one of the major reasons I want someones who stimulates parts of me that I let lay dormant. Not that they do not exist, it is just easy for me to resist their call. Having someone like me would insure we probably wouldn't do much and that's get old real quick.

Yet, you see all the time folk praying to find someone who thinks like them, listens to the same music they do, etc., etc., and so on and so on. I believe deeply the moment we decided we want to share who we are with another and discover who they are; our relationships will be more satisfying.

So, the next time you sit down to make a list about what you want in a person. Write one about what makes you worthy of another person. List the qualities worthy of sharing. Describe the ways of love you plan to practice. Ponder the acts of service you can perform. But, most of all seek God's will.