The Issuation? Caitlin/Bruce Jenner

One of the most important lessons I learned from staying married is people change. People's perception of themselves modifies. We evolve or we don't.

The Religious Folk

The religious folk are trying to speak for God as if they have any true idea of what God thinks. God,
already knew what Bruce Jenner was before he did. I ask all the Christians who proclaim, "God is unhappy, He is not pleased."
What if Bruce's journey is a test for those who do not have to walk it? What if, God wants to see if we can be non-judgmental, unbiased, open, loving, compassionate and understanding? These are the questions I NOW ask myself. As I remind myself, God already knew. So this can't be about the person not doing what they are doing, but it has to be about how I am going to deal with how I feel and what I believe about the situation, problem, dilemma, etc.

Tools (Some Men)

The language some men are using to describe their disgust over Bruce Jenner's decision to become Caitlin, a woman, bothers me immensely. One of my Facebook friends used the phrase, "damn woman," when referring to what Jenner wants to become. Another thought it utterly crazy that he would want to become a "woman."

What the hell is wrong with him feeling like a woman? It took one to help make him a man. After reading the book, "Why Men Fake It: The Truth About Men and Sex," by Abraham Morgentaler, MD; I have come to the real conclusion that men and woman are not as different as we obviously need to believe.

Seriously, the tone of some of these men would make you think Jenner was trying to become a Shark or something just as foreign to who he is as a person. I truly believe, personally, these men who respond like that have some jacked issues about sexuality and they are completely unattractive. Their disdain for the feminine is clear and their lack of understanding and compassion is shameful.

Both Parts

Not only does Jenner want to be a woman, he wants to keep his dick. He's really gonna make some folk happy. This is even more confusing to those who "just don't get it."  He likes dressing and looking like a woman, which has nothing to do with who he is sexually.

The Life!

Women have a life that some men never will enter or understand. Our abilities are vast and we are capable of so much more than the average man and are willing to go so much farther in our intimate, professional and intra-personal relationships. Why wouldn't a man who feels his feminine side more, not want to partake in the non-sexual aspects of womanhood? Bruce Jenner has shown he has the heart of a champion and his decision, to come from who he has been and step into who he wants to be is nothing less than courageous.

I applaud anyone who chooses themselves over the scorn and ridicule of the world. Each of us are miracles. Most of us were, at the least, in the running with hundreds of thousands of little sperm trying to become human.

With the killings and domestic violence going on in the world, one would think we would try to put some love out in the atmosphere. Instead, we continue to spew poisonous rhetoric, trying to talk for God, but at the same time claim to know that the plan has already been laid. You can't have it both ways. Whatever Jenner's reason is for becoming Caitlin; he has to live with them. Remember, what he eats does not make you fat. People change.

Forever Penis: Part Three

The Nitty Gritty

Ejaculation Versus Orgasm

Ejaculation and orgasm are separate biological events for men. According to the doctor, “Orgasm is the full-body experience of reaching that magic point of release.”

“Ejaculation, however, is the expulsion of the sexual fluid,” Dr. Morgentaler states.

These functions occur simultaneously in men. “Not only do some women ejaculate like men, but the fluid squirted out is biochemically similar to make semen and comes from glands lining the urethra that are essentially a female equivalent to the male prostate.”
 

There are 3.5 instances where a man can become erect.
With sex

 Masturbation

Upon awakening in the morning and the half are for the times when a man becomes hard for no apparent reason, or because he has a sexual thought. This can happen anytime day or night and usually diminishes as the man ages.
 

The only thing other than ED, illness or trauma to the genital area that cause a man not to get it up is the mind. This book is about how the mind works against erections and other factors that can cause a man to go limp. The ED medications only work with mental or physical sexual stimulation. One of the doctor’s patients was given Viagra and specific instructions to take it on an empty stomach and to do something sexual. The man took the med before he ate dinner, then went and watched a baseball game while his wife waited for him to come to bed. He went back to the doctor telling him the pills were, “junk.”

He had not followed the instructions. You would think there would be more reports of men who take Viagra being more willing to participate in foreplay since mental stimulation is required to trigger the medication to make the penis hard.

Dr. Morgentaler performs surgery on men who cannot get an erection. His primary tool for treating ED is the Penile Implant. The penis is made up of three cylinders; the two corpora cavernosa and make the penis hard. The corpus spongiosum has spongy tissue and surrounds the urethra and form the glans, head, of the penis. This instrument is placed within the corpora cavernosa (the two paired chambers of the penis responsible for erection). There is Reservoir filled with a saline that is placed in the pelvis behind the pubic bone. The pump is placed in the scrotum. The man feels like he has three balls. When the man wants to have sex, he simply pumps, pumps, pumps it up to his desired hardness. The device is deflated by pressing a button on the pump. Needless to say, this is the most popular treatment for ED in men who cannot use medications and prefer not to shoot themselves in the penis with a hardening solution each time he wants to have sex.

Low-T

Dr. Morgentaler is one of the pioneers who discovered that men go through a similar experience as women in middle age and for now, has termed it male menopause. Low testosterone can cause men not to be interested in sex, feeling lifeless, irritable and as many stated, “Just not myself.”

The doctor prescribes shots, pellets in the buttocks or creams and gels that the man must use over a period of time. The results have been a revitalization in many men who had believed they lost their edge.

One of the funniest stories was about a father who came to see the doctor about his adult son who was 25 years old. The father proclaimed something was wrong with him because he didn’t date and basically refused to do anything. As it turned out, the young man had a bad sexual experience with the second girl he had sex with. She made a remark about his penis. He took it to heart and didn’t have sex again for over 3 years. When he went to see the doctor, not only was nothing wrong with him, he had a bigger than average penis.

You gotta read the book to get the full effect. A great read.

Forever Penis: Part Two

The Scary Part

What Is a Man?

Is a man defined by his penis? You would think so the way the men of today are going crazy over the young men’s fashions that call for some to choose to wear a skirt, dress, leggings, sagging, whatever the case may be. These men are frustrated and also seem to be intimidated, feeling their sexuality slipping away because of someone’s choice of fashion.

The doctor says, “No,” a man is not defined by his penis. “Females exposed to high levels of androgen (molecules with testosterone-like properties) during fetal life often have a hypertrophied clitoris that is hard to distinguish from a boy’s penis.”

What about testicles? Do they make a man a man? The doctor says, “No. Individuals with testicular feminization have testicles, yet these individuals live quite happily as women.”

He also states that genes do not always make the difference because there are instances where the Y chromosome is there, but necessary genes are maladaptive making the male look female. High testosterone levels do not indicate a man. There are men who have had prostate cancer and their testosterone levels are completely reduced. Does this mean they are no longer men?

The doctor says it is all of these things and yet none of them at the same time. He asked us to be aware that the universal belief that man is completely different from females is false.

“Part of the confusion is that sexuality is expressed on at least three levels: gender (Do I have the parts of a boy or a girl?), and sexual orientation (Do I like boys or girls—or both—sexually?). What is intriguing, if a bit mind-boggling, is that all three of these levels of sexuality are independent of each other. In my mind, there are two additional considerations: one is hormonal.”

Testosterone is responsible for much of the behavioral differences between boys and girls. It affects the mental and physical differences we are aware of in men and women.

“The final level is even more difficult to define. I believe it is a cocktail of psychology, free will, and spirit.”

The doctor believes it is the way a man behaves that makes him a man. The choices they make, their swagger, the way the walk through the world as agents of free will. It is the bigger concept of maleness that is misunderstood and this book attempts to help us bridge that gap. He believes it makes no sense to label the sexes, “opposite sex,” when in fact we have so much in common.

The scary part? The men in this book and men I have known and know of, put so much into their penises that they actually believe women feel the same way about the penis, too. Over and over, the theme in this book keeps going back to men want to please their lovers. Men feel less than a man if they cannot get an erection. Even the doctor had to admit that the energy men put into worrying about their performance is for naught, because a woman who chooses to be with a man usually does so not because of his penis size or how good of a lover he is, but because she loves who he IS, period! So there is no wonder the doctor remains in awe of the lack of communication between the sexes. He even mentions the very real truth that many women actually have pain during intercourse, or are not interested after a certain point in life, or could do it or not. It is scary how far apart we are and yet so close.

Whose Talking About This?

What do the horny do for Christmas?
Man, I'm in trouble. I have come close to letting an issue turn into a situation. I plan to get it together before it becomes an issuation.

One of the major reasons I married at all was due to my libido. I have a high personal integrity and when I saw how my attitude towards sex would eventually get me in trouble; I began looking for someone to marry. My husband loved being my sexual play thing. I had that for 27 years. These last two years have been hell.

Now, the issue is I'm feeling like I did when I first recognized my sexual organs at 15. That throbbing and yearning, etc. This sinner is going to fold under this pressure. My mind has been telling "NO!" over the last two years. Now my body is screaming, "YES!"

It is done!